Personal Foundation Program                                            

Personal Foundation is a self-paced personal development program for the individual who wants more—much more—in life and understands the value of investing in oneself by strengthening what we call one’s personal foundation.

A personal foundation has 10 parts—each distinct, yet interrelated—forming a solid base on which to develop a most wonderful, satisfying, and fulfilling life. Also, this program requires work on several other programs, notably Clean Sweep, Tru Values, and NeedLess.

The 10 areas that you will be working on are:

• Clearing unresolved matters
• Restoring your integrity
• Getting all of your needs met
• Extending your boundaries
• Raising your personal standards
• Eliminating what you are tolerating
• Coming from positives
• Resolving key family relationships
• Developing a supportive community
• Reorienting around your Tru Values

This is a fairly rigorous program. Take it one piece at a time. Your first score may be less than 10 or 20. Do not worry. You’ll get to 70, 80, or 90+ sooner than you may think. Once started, the personal foundation process carries on its own momentum.

Instructions                                                                                                                

There are four steps to completing the Personal Foundation program.

Step 1: Answer each question.

If the statement is true, fill in the circle. If not, leave it blank until you’ve done what it takes. Be rigorous; be a hard grader. If the item does not apply or will never be true for you, give yourself credit. (You may do this with up to five items.) Feel free to rewrite or reword up to five of the items in this program to better suit you, your needs, and your life.

Step 2: Summarize each section.

Add up the number of checked circles for each of the 10 sections and write those amounts where indicated. Then add up all 10 sections and write the current total in the progress chart provided.

Step 3: Color in the checklist.

If you have five circles filled in the Clearing Unresolved Matters section, color in the bottom five boxes of column A, and so on. Always work from the bottom up. The goal is to have the entire chart filled in. This will indicate how strong your personal foundation is. In the meantime, you have a current picture of how you are doing in each of the 10 areas.

Step 4: Keep playing until all the boxes are filled in.

This process takes between six months and five

Progress Charts                                                                                                           

Personal Foundation Program 100-Point Checklist                                              

A. Clearing Unresolved Matters

Past experiences—what we did, didn’t do, should have done, did poorly or wrongly—are always with us in some way. In this section, you get clear of the past, doing what you can and letting go of the rest. You are not your past, yet you may still be living as if you are.

When clearing unresolved matters with the past, a person:

• Feels free of what he or she has done, yet responsible for it all
• Can be with themselves, as they are today, with no compensating
• Is able to set goals and reach them more easily

What happens when one isn’t clear:

• One continues to repeat the past in some new way.
• One is reacting to life’s unresolved matters instead of flowing with it.

B. Restore Integrity

To be our best, we must be whole: that is, be responsible for our actions and inactions, respond fully to the lessons being offered to us, honor our bodies and our selves, and respect the realities of the physical universe.

When a person is “in integrity”:

• He or she experiences fewer problems.
• Consistent feelings of peace, health, and emotional balance are present.
• He or she reacts to others very little.

What happens when one is “out of integrity”:

• Disturbances occur regularly.
• Others are blamed, criticized; one reacts a lot to others.

C. Get Your Needs Met

We know we all need air, water, shelter, and food—these are our physical needs. But what about our personal needs? These are things we must have to be ourselves but somehow have not been able to get enough of. Now, it is possible to get enough.

When a person is getting their needs fully met:

• He or she has room and love for other people; there is no competing.
• He or she has a dramatic sense of self-confidence without arrogance.
• Wants naturally decrease: There are no compulsions or musts.

What happens when one’s needs are not met:

• Much time is wasted trying to get needs partially met.
• One attracts needy people.

D. Extend Boundaries

Boundaries are imaginary lines we establish around ourselves to protect our souls, hearts, and minds from the unhealthy or damaging behavior of others. It is recommended that you extend your boundaries at least two or three times beyond where they are currently.

When a person has healthy boundaries:

• Fear diminishes significantly; trust is rarely an issue.
• Willing, healthy family members and true friends respect the person.
• The person starts growing more emotionally and developmentally.

What happens when a person’s boundaries are weak:

• The person attracts needy, disrespectful people into his or her life.
• The person wastes energy keeping life going.

E. Raise Standards

Personal standards refer to the behavior and actions you are willing to hold yourself to. You’ll find as you work on the first four areas of the personal foundation program that you’ll much more easily expect (and enjoy) more of yourself and of your behavior.

When people have and honor high standards:

• They feel very, very good about themselves, and others, too.
• They become irresistibly attractive to high-quality people.
• They don’t get near people or situations that cause problems.

What happens when one’s standards are too low:

• One continues to operate “below the line” emotionally.
• Self-esteem drops; self-worth is questioned.

F. Stop Tolerating

Humans tolerate a lot. Often, we’re taught not to complain, to accept that life is difficult, not to rock the boat, to go along with others, to be grateful for what we have, to be understanding. Not bad advice, but we can still stop tolerating what is bugging us!

When people have stopped tolerating:

• They are happier, more fun to be around.
• They have extra energy to express their values versus their egos.
• They have the edge: they step over nothing.

What happens when they tolerate?

• They and their work become mediocre; they are tired.
• Natural creativity is squashed.

F. Stop Tolerating

Humans tolerate a lot. Often, we’re taught not to complain, to accept that life is difficult, not to rock the boat, to go along with others, to be grateful for what we have, to be understanding. Not bad advice, but we can still stop tolerating what is bugging us!

When people have stopped tolerating:

• They are happier, more fun to be around.
• They have extra energy to express their values versus their egos.
• They have the edge: they step over nothing.

What happens when they tolerate?

• They and their work become mediocre; they are tired.
• Natural creativity is squashed.