D. Extend Boundaries
Boundaries are imaginary lines we establish around ourselves to protect our souls, hearts, and minds from the unhealthy or damaging behavior of others. It is recommended that you extend your boundaries at least two or three times beyond where they are currently.
When a person has healthy boundaries:
- Fear diminishes significantly; trust is rarely an issue.
- Willing, healthy family members and true friends respect the person.
- The person starts growing more emotionally and developmentally.
What happens when a person’s boundaries are weak:
- The person attracts needy, disrespectful people into his or her life.
- The person wastes energy keeping life going.
F. Stop Tolerating
Humans tolerate a lot. Often, we’re taught not to complain, to accept that life is difficult, not to rock the boat, to go along with others, to be grateful for what we have, to be understanding. Not bad advice, but we can still stop tolerating what is bugging us!
When people have stopped tolerating:
- They are happier, more fun to be around.
- They have extra energy to express their values versus their egos.
- They have the edge: they step over nothing.
What happens when they tolerate?
- They and their work become mediocre; they are tired.
- Natural creativity is squashed.